Being a [Step] Mom:  What the F&#k IS Best?!

  Breast vs bottle.  Co-sleeping: yes or no? Cry it out or rock them to sleep?  How the heck do I know?  I am not a psychologist.  Nor do I hold anything even closely resembling a medical degree.  This post will not answer any of those questions for you.  Because here is what I do know: the only person who knows what the f&#k is best… is you. Still with me?  Good.  I apologize for … Continue Reading →

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Being a [Step] Mom: Teaching Our Kids About Bullying

This post won’t be what you thought.  It is about bullying.  But it’s more so about how the term “bullying” has gotten out of hand.  And how that is doing our kids a disservice. The term “bullying” has become such a hot button.  And quite honestly it should be in terms of having zero tolerance for such behavior.  This is one place where I think social media has helped us as parents and educators.  We … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Drama Triangle

There is a concept in psychology called the Drama Triangle, or the Karpman Triangle. It’s about relationships.  Really, it’s about ineffective relationships.  There is a persecutor, a rescuer, and a victim.  If you look at an inverted triangle the victim is at the bottom.  The persecutor and rescuer share the top looking down on the victim. The goal really is to become adults self-responsible and insightful enough to never be a part of the triangle.  … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Transparency

Being a [Step] Mom I’ve found that transparency is one of the best tools in my belt.  Being a parent, in general, is totally fucking hard.  It is also terribly humbling and even more rewarding.  Recently I have come to realize that one of the best tools for teaching your children how to be humble is to yourself be transparent. Last week was an exceptionally hard week for my husband and I.  The big kid’s … Continue Reading →

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Powerless: A Lesson on How to Take Control

Have you ever felt powerless?  Completely and totally powerless.  Like you are suffocating from the inside out.  You have no idea which way is up or how you could possibly move forward.  Have you felt this way?  I have. Lives Completely Changed About two months ago, our lives completely changed.  In a matter of seconds and a dozen words, our world turned upside down.  I want to be clear that I’m not pretending to be … Continue Reading →