Being a [Step] Mom: Why the Kitchen is the Heart of Our Home

I believe in food.  Really really believe in it.  I love food.  Eating it, preparing, and especially sharing it.  It makes me happy.  And over the last few years becoming a [Step] Mom it’s been one of the most unifying things for my family.  The kitchen is the heart of our home. When I first came into my three step kids lives I was unsure of so many things.  Boundaries weren’t yet clearly defined.  And … Continue Reading →

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Being a [Step] Mom:  What the F&#k IS Best?!

  Breast vs bottle.  Co-sleeping: yes or no? Cry it out or rock them to sleep?  How the heck do I know?  I am not a psychologist.  Nor do I hold anything even closely resembling a medical degree.  This post will not answer any of those questions for you.  Because here is what I do know: the only person who knows what the f&#k is best… is you. Still with me?  Good.  I apologize for … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Drama Triangle

There is a concept in psychology called the Drama Triangle, or the Karpman Triangle. It’s about relationships.  Really, it’s about ineffective relationships.  There is a persecutor, a rescuer, and a victim.  If you look at an inverted triangle the victim is at the bottom.  The persecutor and rescuer share the top looking down on the victim. The goal really is to become adults self-responsible and insightful enough to never be a part of the triangle.  … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Transparency

Being a [Step] Mom I’ve found that transparency is one of the best tools in my belt.  Being a parent, in general, is totally fucking hard.  It is also terribly humbling and even more rewarding.  Recently I have come to realize that one of the best tools for teaching your children how to be humble is to yourself be transparent. Last week was an exceptionally hard week for my husband and I.  The big kid’s … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step]Mom: It’s Hard

The thing about being a stepmom.  It’s hard.  It sucks.  Being a parent is hard.  Period.  You second guess everything you do.  Constantly wonder what impact your everyday actions will have your children’s future.  You sleep never.  Your favorite foods are no longer sacred.  You’re a glorified taxi driver.  Essentially nothing is simple and the risk is vast.   Add to that the fact that these tiny human’s, you now play a role in molding,  are … Continue Reading →