Being a [Step] Mom: Why Can’t my Kids Close Anything?!

I’ve thought a lot lately, for various reasons, about what I really want to teach my kids. I don’t want to control every little thing they do. First, that’s exhausting. Second, more importantly, it’s just not effective. My kids have to fail and struggle and piss me off to learn. As a good friend reminded me, I’m not raising “good kids” but “good adults”. I really want my kids to be productive members of society. … Continue Reading →

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Being a [Step] Mom: Why I Menu Plan

I don’t mean to keep talking about it.  But I do.  I can’t help it.  It’s who I am.  I love food.  Food is the thing around which my family revolves.  It’s horrible, I know.  I didn’t say family time, or love, or our faith.  I said food.  But here’s the thing, food is the thing that brings us together every day guaranteed.  Breakfast and dinner, 99.9% of the time, my family are together.  I … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Conversations about Body Image

My kids are all athletes.  My husband and I were athletes.  I still work out and run regularly.  Fitness is a big part of our lives, our values.  It’s natural then that food is also a big part of our lives.  I’ve said before the kitchen is the heart of our home.  Fitness and food, and conversations about these topics are two things that have helped me develop my role in my step kid’s lives.  … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: It’s Not About You

As any mom, we as stepmoms need to choose our battles.  As a stepmom, it’s important to remember it’s not about you.  What I mean is sometimes as a stepmom it’s incredibly important to own that your kids are not yours biologically.  This gives you the opportunity to step back from certain conflicts and be more objective.  What I’m really saying is that more often than not it’s really just not about you.  And that’s powerful. … Continue Reading →

Lentil Taco Bowls

About a year ago I instituted meatless Monday’s in our house.  Now, let’s be clear I am a carnivore through and through.  So are my kids.  But I also really believe in plant-based protein.  It’s delicious.  It’s healthy.  And it’s often very cost effective.  And it’s incredibly versatile.  It really encouraged me to mix things up!  So, one day perusing my pantry I found some lentils and thought, “what the hell do I have these … Continue Reading →