Being a [Step] Mom: Become Friends with Your Demons

In my blog the other night I wrote about grit. A few blogs ago I wrote about optimism. Writing about something and practicing the things you write about are two different things. I’d love to say that I’m always practicing. I’m not. But, what I am doing is always trying to practice. One of the ways I do this is by writing. And the reason I’m able to write is that I’m becoming friends with … Continue Reading →

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Being a [Step] Mom: Have a Village

Here’s the thing, parenthood, motherhood, step-parenthood… it’s all really fucking lonely at times. When I became an instant mom I whipped out my whiny asshole card a lot. “Woe is me, nobody understands my situation.” “I just wish I could go to the bar with friends and wake up hungover without tiny humans crawling on me.” It’s the classic, “if I knew then, what I know now” conundrum. Only here’s the thing, as I’ve learned, … Continue Reading →

Being an Allergy Mom

Over the past 9 years, being an allergy mom, I’ve gotten a lot of different reactions from people. “How do you do it? I could never do it!” “You must be so overwhelmed and stressed out! What a pain!”  When I tell people my daughter has FPIES, they are usually shocked. Food Protein-Induced Enterocolitis Syndrome (FPIES) is a type of food allergy affecting the gastrointestinal (GI) tract. Classic symptoms of FPIES include profound vomiting, diarrhea, and … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: Why I Menu Plan

I don’t mean to keep talking about it.  But I do.  I can’t help it.  It’s who I am.  I love food.  Food is the thing around which my family revolves.  It’s horrible, I know.  I didn’t say family time, or love, or our faith.  I said food.  But here’s the thing, food is the thing that brings us together every day guaranteed.  Breakfast and dinner, 99.9% of the time, my family are together.  I … Continue Reading →

Being a [Step] Mom: How I Lost Sight of My Identity

Arguably the most disappointing thing I ever said to my father was, “I’m just going to marry my career.” He was driving me to the airport for one of my many work trips back then.  This was 5 years ago.  I had recently gotten out of my only other really serious relationship, had just bought a house and was elbow deep in building my career.  (Notice I said 5 years ago btw?  We are about … Continue Reading →